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A Queen's Diary

Forgiveness

11/10/2017

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Forgiveness is sometimes the hardest thing a person can show towards someone. I have been going through some rough times when it comes to forgiving people. In the past, I would shrug off the people that have done wrong to me and blow them off as if they didn’t exist. But not forgiving them just made me hold resentment towards them, and that wasn’t healthy for myself or the people around me. When I would hold a grudge, it turned me into an angry and bitter person. I actually thought that forgiving someone would cripple me in some sort of way and I would feel weak or  I would always think to myself, “How could someone treat me so wrong?” or “How can someone disrespect me and think that it was ok?” All I wanted to do was blow them off and have a negative vibe towards them, but what good is that going to do? How can I benefit from being so negative? I needed to learn that letting go and eventually forgiving people will help me keep a peace of mind. People make mistakes, including myself. If someone is willing to admit their faults and apologize, then why not open up and forgive? It can honestly help mend relationships. Even if someone doesn’t admit their faults, forgiveness is one of the most powerful tools that you can use/have. It doesn’t justify what someone has done to you, but it begins the healing process. I have just began my healing process with forgiving someone, and it already feels like a weight has been lifted.

-Queen Chanel
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Teleda Holmes
12/8/2017 12:00:35 pm

Queen Chanel,

It's wonderful that you have come to know and embrace the power of forgiveness! Your story reminds me of how I wanted so badly to hate the people who did me wrong throughout my childhood. The men who molested me, the adults who called me ugly names and spoke negatively about me and the person I would become, and carrying the burdens of my mothers crack addiction made me want to hate everyone. However, I could never find it in me to not forgive them and that was the part that made me mad! Mad at myself, I used to think that I was weak because I could not get mad at those people and I seriously did not any ill feelings towards them. I questioned that about myself so many days...thinking something was off with me. However, I embrace this gift of forgiveness I have been blessed with because I now see that it was the way God created me.

Often times I share my story because it is my testimony and there are always new revelations that come to me each time I am led to share. I'm always saying that the thing I once thought was a weakness turned out to be a gift and blessing that not very many people possess naturally, but it can be obtained and it can make life much more peaceful and help nurture maturity and total freedom. So, thank you for sharing your testimony and I am so happy to know that your healing process has begun...and encourage you give it your best effort each day as it comes and God will do the rest.

Thank you for sharing your story and being so transparent because we all are going through the same things in this world. The circumstances and people involved may differ, but them lessons are the same and there is a blessing in every lesson!

Continual Blessings

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Chanel Shaheed link
12/12/2017 06:38:07 am

Queen Teleda,

It means so much that you enjoyed the blog. It is very hard (for many reasons) to have forgiveness in your heart. I hope that more people will learn to use forgiveness as a tool to heal. So many friendships/relationships end and end terribly, because they feel like forgiveness is a weakness.

I’m learning to open up more and realize that forgiving someone is very powerful and will keep my mind at peace. I want to thank you for your heartfelt reply. And you are definitely correct.... There are blessings in every lesson!


-Chanel Shaheed
Secretary, Co-Founder
Inspired By Queens, Inc.

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