A Queen's Diary
Black girl magic…. We’ve heard this phrase for a few years now and every day we are reminded of how magical we really are. We are women whose grandmothers, great grandmothers etc. have literally fought their way through life and have come out stronger and wiser than ever. If you really pause to think about all of the accomplishments we make on a daily basis, we would walk with our heads so high and have confidence dripping from our heels. We are sisters, wives, mothers, business owners, professionals, students and friends. We are so busy working our magic that we don’t even realize the magical impact we have on others.
Take some time to revel in the sparkle that you bring to this earth; get that pedicure, take yourself to lunch/dinner, or buy yourself that pretty black dress. We give so much of ourselves to others that we forget that if we don’t take care of ourselves, we won’t be able to take of others. It’s ok to get tired, even God rested on the 7th day. I sometimes have to remind myself not to feel guilty for enjoying a break and relaxing.
Also as black women, we need to learn to be confident in our sparkle while at the same time, not diminishing our sister’s sparkle. Have you watched a fireworks show during 4th of July and viewed all of the different rays of color shooting through the air and different types of fireworks? They are all beautiful together, every single sparkle is visible and appreciated. We as black women are beautiful and powerful when we work together, there is no need to diminish the light of others to be successful.
A few days ago, I fell victim to comparing my success in my business to another business owner by the success that I was seeing on social media. The next morning in prayer, I asked God to help my business be more successful and to connect me with the right people to grow my business. But, if I’m truly honest with you and myself, that prayer was all derived from the feelings of failure that I felt from someone else’s social media display of success. Two days later, the Lord spoke to me and told me to get it together, that person’s business success couldn’t be compared to my business due to our goals and paths being different. I was pretty much slapped for putting a limit on my success based on one characteristic of that person’s portrayed success on social media. I shared that story to say, don’t compare yourself to others. You don’t know their story, your goals and aspirations and blessings are predestined for you and you alone. Sparkle on ladies, sparkle on.
~ Tequesta DeSouza