A Queen's Diary
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Today, I forgive myself for all the times I've neglected to celebrate me. I forgive myself for making the time to be there for others but not for myself. I forgive myself for seeking happiness in others and suppressing the happiness that I have within. I forgive myself for loving the people around me for who they are and finding fault in me.
Nevertheless, I forgive myself for being so quick to forgive others but slow to forgive myself. See, I was at place that I put myself last but others first. Where I justified how others treated me by telling myself that I deserved it, because just maybe I wasn’t worthy enough to be treated like the Queen that I am. I have carried around so many burdens due to my past, that I somehow forgot that each day that I awake is a new day, a new beginning. That it is up to me to choose how I have live my life based on the decisions that I make. Today, I celebrate ME! My apologies that it took so long. -Queen Le
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When people doubt your possibilities of success as a single mother, you start to question your own abilities; rearrange your company. Watching your kids fall asleep in libraries, paying your last for a sitter or having to bring them to class with you allows the thoughts of, 'is it even worth it,' to cast a light on quitting. I'm here to tell you, when your passion and your drive is fueled by the little faces that depend on you, you silence your doubters and show them that everything they believed to be impossible, to be possible.... I'M POSSIBLE! People have become so comfortable with doubting the success of others because they themselves, are incapable. This single mother served 8 years Active Duty Air Force, is the Public Relations Manager and Co-Founder for Inspired by Queens, Inc., a graduate (to be continued) and an up and coming author. Did I mention that I qualify for ANY job I want? Now tell me again what a single mother can't do? GOD is Good and trust me, I'm living proof! Do not allow small minds to put a limit on your goals and aspirations. Had I listened to my doubters, I'd still be singing that sad song in the first two sentences. Momprenuer much?!
-Queen Neeke There are several reasons why we decide to follow through on achieving goals. Things like seeking financial freedom, increasing the amount of free time you have daily, and the reason that probably rings true for most of us, and that is “Fear”. Whatever the reason may be, you should know that every day is filled with light and inspiration, and no goal is unattainable.
I am 33 years old and I recently had a child. I love my baby with all my heart, but I was under the impression that everything I was involved in would have be paused or stopped completely because of my bundle of joy. I believed that school would have to be delayed, work projects had to stop, and planning my personal business would have to be placed on the back burner. Although the birth of my child was so great, in my mind, it brought up many negatives. How was I going to have the time or extra money to pursue anything else? How could I possibly do anything for myself when I must take care of a child? My mind began to spiral, and eventually my goals began to fade to a distant memory. After my pregnancy, I gained support from others and developed a plan for how I was going to take back my future and rededicate myself to my goals. I realized that having a baby really wasn’t going to affect the goals that I had already set for myself, and with a little readjustment, I could continue to be inspired. I had to look within myself and ask, why did I set these goals in the first place? Who do I want to become? Of course, life may take a turn and your blueprint may change, but you shouldn’t give up on your goals and aspirations. If you find yourself having setbacks you should reflect, pray, meditate, or find your inner peace, and motivate yourself to progress. Also, surround yourself with positive influences and legitimate role models. A huge mistake that we make is keeping “negative Nancy’s” around that continue to keep that black energy around us. Lastly, remind yourself why you established your goals in the first place. Whether it was to save money, for family, school, a career, or whatever reason motivates your actions, you need to hold fast to those motivators and let no circumstance hinder you from achieving what you set out to do. -Queen Chanel When I was a little girl, I dreamed of becoming a famous artist or photographer. I wanted a career where I would be in my own zone and worry about…me. What I was doing and where I was going in life. I didn’t have many friends, and the friends I did have were well, mostly family. So how did I get here? How did I become the co-founder and member of a non-profit women’s mentoring organization whose mission is to inspire and mentor young girls and women through love? I never planned to be a mentor, especially not one to girls and women. I am beginning to realize that mentoring is more than just spending a few hours with someone to say you did it. It is something that is in you, a part of you not something you plan on doing or becoming.
Mentoring is conveying the gained wisdom, experience, lessons and insights that I have learned in life, good and bad. We as mentors have the responsibilities of being a guiding light, a beacon of hope for women and ourselves. As a mentor my goal is to help young women understand their potential, their strong points and to also inspire and motivate them. Being a great mentor was not on my wish list because I have come to realize that it takes an emotional commitment that is honestly much more challenging and important than parenting because of the relationship you build that helps teach both the mentee and mentor how to succeed and focus on the path to towards your goals. We are all the sum of our own experiences. Self-reflection has helped me in bringing my experiences and the lessons learned to the light. This light is what I am learning to use to bring added perspectives to the lives of the girls and women I are impacting daily through our mentoring relationships. To help these women and girls better understand themselves, I had to personally reflect on the significant events in my life, my successes and my failures, the obstacles that I encountered and the lessons that learned along the way. By motivating, inspiring and loving these women in return I am getting just that and more which is something I've never dreamed of. That is why I am here. Queen P We are already in our second month of the New Year and time seems to be going by quickly. If your life is anything like mine, you create a goal, you set a due date and before you know that time has come and gone. As a single mother of two, at times I know this can be a bit frustrating and a little discouraging; trying to balance my schedule, be all my girls need and striving toward my goals . It made it harder for me to believe that I could ever start a business and get that opportunity to go but to school. But I did! I want to encourage you to stay on the course! As long your moving your on the right track. You may not get to where you want to go but you will get where you need to be in the right time. Don't be so worried about how fast you get there. I heard someone say "Some destinations are meant to be walked into because running into may damage it". Some days are going to feel a little more productive than others and thats ok. You only lose if you give up or never try because when you give up, you don't just lose, you also miss out on what was meant to be taught or learned along the way. Get focused, find balance and keep moving Queens!
-Queen Myronica Happy New Year Everyone! 2018 is finally here and it’s time to get started! Get started? You may be asking, “Get started on what?” I’ve made a personal resolution/goal/promise to myself to make sure I am taking time for ME in the best possible ways in 2018. Some people look at making New Year’s resolutions as cliché or lame but I think it is important to layout your goals for the coming year no matter what you call them. Positive intentions can be written down in a journal or posted on a vision board. However you decide to do it make it a habit to declare and affirm those things you plan to accomplish this year. My personal resolution is to take better care of myself this year. You know the saying “you can’t pour from an empty cup”? To be the best wife, mother, friend, student, and mentor I am capable of being I have to remember not to forget about myself. My physical health, my mental health and my spiritual health is just as important as taking care of everyone else. So that’s it. That’s my resolution. I’ve set it. I’ve written the specifics down in a place where I see them daily (it’s harder to ignore and forget this way). When I get off track (it happens to the best of us) I’ll look at my list and remind myself how important it is to take care of ME. Whether you decide to call it a resolution, a goal, a promise to yourself, or simply a positive intention set it, write it down and commit to it! It’s time to get started!! -Queen Aisha How often do you hear people say that it's not the right time? I'll give you an example. You ever hear parents say that they're going to wait to do something for their child until the child is old enough to remember, like throw them a party or take them to Disney World?
We have to learn to live in the NOW and create great memories whether your child will remember or not. We may not be alive to even see the time that we've deemed 'right.' My favorite motivational quote is, 'One day, you're going to run out of one days.' This example also applies to life and achieving your goals. Start that diet, go on that trip, step out on FAITH and move into that new house or start that new business. Using your breath to say, 'I'll do it when the time is right,' is a waste of air. Sometimes we become so complacent on the words we speak, 'I will eventually.' Procrastination becomes complacency and it will drive you further from your goals than you were when you first spoke these goals over your life. Start now, for each day isn't promised to us so that when you lay down for your final rest, you will rest peacefully in knowing that you started and you gave it your all! -Queen Neeke Forgiveness is sometimes the hardest thing a person can show towards someone. I have been going through some rough times when it comes to forgiving people. In the past, I would shrug off the people that have done wrong to me and blow them off as if they didn’t exist. But not forgiving them just made me hold resentment towards them, and that wasn’t healthy for myself or the people around me. When I would hold a grudge, it turned me into an angry and bitter person. I actually thought that forgiving someone would cripple me in some sort of way and I would feel weak or I would always think to myself, “How could someone treat me so wrong?” or “How can someone disrespect me and think that it was ok?” All I wanted to do was blow them off and have a negative vibe towards them, but what good is that going to do? How can I benefit from being so negative? I needed to learn that letting go and eventually forgiving people will help me keep a peace of mind. People make mistakes, including myself. If someone is willing to admit their faults and apologize, then why not open up and forgive? It can honestly help mend relationships. Even if someone doesn’t admit their faults, forgiveness is one of the most powerful tools that you can use/have. It doesn’t justify what someone has done to you, but it begins the healing process. I have just began my healing process with forgiving someone, and it already feels like a weight has been lifted.
-Queen Chanel What a wonderful feeling is it is to be YOU and have no REGRETS! To laugh loudly, to love freely and to wake up not knowing what the day may bring, but knowing you made a choice to a have positive day. To choose YOUR own happiness over the approval of others. To break the chains of society's "norm". To accept who you are YOU, regardless of your flaws or what others may say. We are all different and this is what makes us unique so why would we choose to blend in when we were made to stand out? Why would you hide "your magic" to live a life full of emptiness?
The best moments in life are the one's not planned, but the unexpected ones. You can plan a trip but you can not plan a good time. You can plan a marriage but you can not plan love. Life is not all about planning; sometimes it is about choosing to live and choosing to be you. Happiness is a personal choice, that is why we can not control the happiness of others. Show the world your magic...leave a trail of glitter! -Queen Le I am proud to say I am no longer the woman I once was, and I have no desire to be her again. It’s not a secret that I was inpatient, stubborn, unfaithful, unkind and many times defiant. There were a lot of things in my life that I took for granted like time, family, friends and genuine love. When I was forced to deal with pain and heartache from my life experiences, I learned to listen to my inner self and decide to make the situation either better or worse.
As I get older, I think back and am thankful for the lessons I've learned from those experiences. Each day, I am still learning to be more courageous, more disciplined and more diligent. I am now understanding what it means to be a woman. I am wise and I am compassionate. I am a beautiful and have a soft spirit that is learning to love unconditionally because I've found unconditional love for myself within myself. I realize that there is nothing outside of my being that can enable me from being who I choose to be. Everything I need to be better is within. Don’t forget that… Queen P |
Lenore "Le"
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